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Chapter 06 — Family & Parenting

How do I deal with a picky eater?

Keep offering rejected foods without pressure — it can take 10–15 exposures before a child accepts a new flavour. Eat the same meal together, let them serve themselves, and skip the 'three more bites' negotiations. Your job is what's offered and when; their job is whether and how much.

Follow-up questions

Should I make a separate kid meal?

Long-term, no — it locks in pickiness. Always include at least one item you know they'll eat, alongside the family meal.

Are they getting enough nutrition?

Kids self-regulate over days, not meals. If growth is steady and energy is normal, week-to-week intake matters more than any one dinner.

When should I worry?

Extreme food avoidance, weight loss, gagging on textures, or sensory aversions across many foods are worth raising with a pediatrician — could be ARFID or sensory issues.

Should I make separate meals?

No. Serve one family meal with at least one thing you know they'll eat.

Bribes or rewards?

Backfire long-term. Turns healthy food into a chore and dessert into a prize.

Is it a phase?

Usually yes — peaks at 2–6 years and fades by early teens if not made into a battle.

When to worry?

Weight loss, fewer than 20 accepted foods, gagging or vomiting with new textures — talk to a paediatrician or feeding therapist.

Are food chart rewards okay?

Short-term compliance, long-term backfire. Kids stop eating the food once the reward stops.

Should I hide vegetables?

Hidden is fine for nutrition; visible-and-normalised is better for the long game. Do both.

Is picky eating normal in toddlers?

Very. Food neophobia peaks around two to five years and is a normal developmental stage that most children grow out of.

Should I make a separate meal for my child?

No, but do include one 'safe' item they'll usually eat alongside the family meal so there is always something on the plate.

When is picky eating a real problem?

If it involves fewer than about twenty foods, weight loss, gagging, or distress at the table, ask a paediatrician about ARFID or feeding therapy.

Do vitamins help picky eaters?

A basic children's multivitamin is reasonable insurance, but it doesn't address the behaviour or texture issues underneath.

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