Chapter 05 — Love & Relationships

How do I know if it's love?

Infatuation is mostly about how they make you feel; love is also about how you treat them when it's inconvenient. Real signs: you can be unimpressive around them, you're better in your other relationships because of them, and the future you imagine includes their boring Tuesday, not just the highlights.

Follow-up questions

How long does the honeymoon phase last?

Typically 6 months to 2 years. The shift isn't an end — it's where actual love starts, once novelty stops doing the work.

Is it love or attachment?

Healthy love includes attachment; pure attachment without respect or care isn't love. If leaving feels impossible but staying feels bad, that's attachment, not love.

Can you love two people?

Yes — humans aren't wired for one bond. Most cultures choose monogamy as a commitment, not because love is single-channel.

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