The Asked

Chapter 05 — Love & Relationships

What makes a marriage last?

John Gottman's research: a 5:1 ratio of positive to negative interactions, repair attempts after conflict, and avoiding the 'four horsemen' — criticism, contempt, defensiveness, stonewalling. Not compatibility — how you handle incompatibility.

Follow-up questions

Should we go to couples therapy?

Sooner rather than later. Most couples wait years too long.

Is sexless marriage doomed?

Not automatically — but if one partner is unhappy about it, it needs open conversation.

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